About This Site

Creating a healthy lifestyle should begin with making small changes, like baby steps, in how you live each day. Small changes in how you live each day can lead to amazing rewards.

The articles below are an eclectic collection of topics that interest this author. They are based on personal experiences, research from a variety of books, magazines and internet sites addressing a multitude of topics such as good nutrition, fitness, parenting, grandparenting, the affects of stress, spirtual well-being, grieving and more.

I thank my son for encouraging me to write. Putting my experiences down "on paper" has helped me to organize sometimes chaotic thoughts into something more understandable - at least to me, and give me new direction of self-improvement. Writing can be good therapy.

There is a wealth of information 'out there' and you are also encouraged to read, read, read and find what works best for you!
Afterall, being informed is a great start to living a better healthier life!


Sunday, April 17, 2016

The Keeper of All Things




Slowly but surely I sift through boxes and plastic tubs of ‘things’; photos, letters, greeting cards, sympathy cards, thank you cards, drawings made by my brother and I as children and by the grandchildren, whole news papers and articles cut out (with words and sentences circled or underlined), all ‘things’ my Mother kept for almost 90 years.   Yes, my Mother was indeed, one of the best keepers of things, everything that had any meaning to her and she hoped would have meaning to us.   Amongst the collection of things, are her own musings about her day; who had called her, who she had called (the time and if they answered or not), where we were traveling on business, calendars filled with birthday reminders, doctor appointments, vet appointments and lists, lots of lots of lists of who had sent her cards and names of those to whom she had sent cards, monthly budget sheets, utility bills, doctor bills, drugstore bills, insurance statements, … I could keep adding to the things kept, but I think you get the idea.   She also kept in this mix her opinions about today’s happenings in politics, religion, morals, family values, insurance companies, etc.
 Some of the ‘things’ I’ve found are genuine treasures for those of us into family history.  The discovery of envelopes and small boxes filled with old family photos, letters from family members long gone is truly like finding a vein of gold or silver!  Nostalgia kicks in seeing the reminders of many family members so loved, so missed, but also fond memories that brings a smile to the face and deep in the heart.
My next task is to sift through what was special to my spouse; a collection of things stashed away in drawers, shelves, cabinets, boxes, closets, garage, and a storage unit.  
It is up to me, the finder of all things kept, to make the decisions of what to toss, what to keep, what to sell, what someone else may want.   It isn’t easy to give away their clothes let along decide what to do with things loved ones kept for whatever reason.  I am glad Mother kept some things (the discovered family treasures), but not all things.  My husband kept things he thought would have monetary value, found at garage or estate sales.  It is a tedious task and deciding what to do with what can be, no IS stressful.  
I loved (love) them both dearly and miss them beyond description, but my goal is not to become a keeper of all stuff and things.  I don’t want my children spending hours, days, weeks sifting through boxes, papers, cabinets, storage units, etc.  SO .. I’d best get back to the task at hand before it’s too late and my children have to pick up where I left off.   

Sunday, May 31, 2015

Suffering- a Personal Story

Death is inevitable yes, but I do believe the struggle to live, the suffering from pain, fear, disappointments ..  has to be one of the most difficult things to do in life. 

My Dad passed away in ICU one week following surgery to remove a malignant brain tumor.  The surgery left him unable to move or talk, although he tried so hard to do so.  I can only imagine how

Saturday, May 30, 2015

Career, Marriage, Family and Mid-Liife Transition

One of the most predictable and important turning points that occur in a career is called a midlife transition. The midlife transition occurs when people take stock of their career and look to what the future holds - "Where will I be in 7 to 10 years? and What do I need to do to get there?"
 
As with turning points in a career, turning points also occur in relationships. Couples take stock of where their relationship is now and what will it be like in the future. Developing a vision together is critical step in a relationship. Without a shared vision

The Mental and Physical Effects of Stress

Stress in any form can cause numerous health problems, ranging from anxieties, phobias, digestive problems, even becoming more susceptable to illnesses all because STRESS wears down your immune system.

Relational stress in the home, family, workplace and any other interactions taken seriously that has a high level of negativity and/or conflict is more likely to cause
Rejection comes from a variety of sources: pre- or current employers, family or friends.  Rejection begins and ends with naming the faults of , but never recognizing the strengths in the rejected individual.  Understanding the mechanisms of rejection and making positive choices of how to handle negative messages are the most fundamental keys to safeguarding your self esteem and sense of self worth.
Rejection is not an expression of loyalty, and contributes

Reconciliation



In the blink of an eye everything can change.
Forgive often and love with all your heart. You may never have that chance again.


The strength behind true reconciliation comes through the acts of apologizing and forgiving. The need for an apology and forgiveness may involve one or both parties. The parties involved must recognize their own part in the event, the weakness within themselves that caused the estrangement.  They must desire reconciliation enough to put ego aside and move forward toward reconciliation

Reconciliation begins with

The Winds of Forgiveness

Two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey, they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other in the face. The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything wrote in the sand: Today my best friend